How it works
Slow on purpose. Worth it when it arrives.
There’s no feed, no card stack, no directory of singles. Here is everything that happens, in order.
You
Step 1: An invitation
Someone already in Mutually invites you — or you join the list, and we write when there’s room.
You
Step 2: A conversation
About twenty minutes with our interviewer, over as many sittings as you like. Values, family, faith if it matters to you, how you handle conflict.
You
Step 3: Your profile
A few photos, a few facts. Photos are only ever seen inside an introduction.
Your circle
Step 4: People who know you
Three to ten friends and family describe you from a private link. Each chooses who may see their words.
Mutually
Step 5: We look, quietly
Only across people your circle knows. Your non-negotiables first — intentions, children, where you’d happily live — then character.
A Connector
Step 6: Someone vouches
A person who knows you both is asked whether they’d make the introduction. Most ideas stop here.
You both
Step 7: Private yes
You each see why. Neither sees the other’s answer until it’s mutual.
You both
Step 8: Meet, then reflect
Focus mode pauses new introductions. Afterwards, a few private questions help us introduce better.